Reconnecting with a Dismissive Avoidant Player: 5 Pro Gamer Moves
As gamers, we know the sting of defeat all too well. But some broken connections cut deeper than others. Trying to reconcile with a dismissive avoidant ex (or as I call them, the emotionally-unavailable NPC) presents an especially formidable final boss battle. Their instinct to throw up walls and retreat inward leaves your heart health far too exposed.
Yet no matter how much damage they‘ve inflicted, you still can‘t let go of hopes for a future co-op campaign together. If that sounds familiar, this pro gamer guide shares power-up techniques to master the tricky quest of winning back your avoidant ex.
Understanding the Emotionally-Distant NPC
First, let‘s analyze why connecting to a dismissive avoidant feels like shouting into a glitched NPC‘s dialogue tree that never branches. As statistical research confirms, these players likely lacked emotional support early on from "parental party members". So as a key survival mechanism, they minimize reliance on teammates, preventing future damage to their hearts.
Of course, this is not a viable strategy for end-game relationships which require vulnerability, communication and collaboration to complete more advanced quests. Yet no matter how persistently you attempt to interact, dismissive avoidants remain unresponsive behind their impenetrable barrier.
Luckily, with understanding and the right arsenal, reconciliation is possible…if you have the patience and courage for a multi-stage boss battle! Equip yourself for the long-haul campaign with these essential side quests:
- Party Members Must Commit to the Raid
- Carefully Time Your Return from AFK
- Focus First on Re-Establishing Positive Team Chat
- Gradually Party Up for PvE Grinding
- Confront the Raid-Wiping Mechanics
Side Quest 1: Gain Commitment to the Campaign
While desperation may tempt you toward a full-frontal assault, veteran relationship counselors advise a more strategic approach. Any successful run at reconciliation depends foremost on both party members consciously committing to see the campaign through.
You must establish agreement to cooperate on the following:
Making emotional inventory management a play priority
Tempering instinctive avoidance/isolation tendencies
Learning each other‘s common anxiety triggers
Developing agreed-upon signals to provide reassurance mid-battle
Braving tough conversations around unresolved issues
Gaining this mutual willingness to try functions like the "On the Same Page" perk, conferring +3 to Intimacy gains from future interactions. While dismissing avoidants default to solo-queueing when challenges appear, preparing them to adopt a team mentality primes theodds of victory.
Side Quest 2: Wait Until Their AFK Status Lifts
Though it may seem counterintuitive, reconciliation experts actually discourage attempting to interact with a dismissive avoidant player immediately post-breakup. At this point, they likely have their emotional pain muted while distracted by other damage-mitigating habits.
However, extensive research confirms after approximately two months, the grief over losing their prized teammate starts to emerge from repression. As fond memories and longing sets in, their bitterness fades, opening a valuable window of opportunity for re-engaging.
So around the two-month mark, cautiously send a party invite via text or chat. The goal here is to slowly rebuild positive rapport before diving back into emotionally-fraught relationship dynamics. With patience and the right techniques, you can gradually coax them from AFK status back into open communication.
Side Quest 3: Establish Positive Team Chat Habits
Since re-establishing trust requires filling their damaged emotional health bars, set feelings-focused conversations as your initial goal. Avoid diving right into the complex issues or problems from your past campaign together.
Instead rebuild comrades-in-arms rapport by asking about familiar interests, joking around, and reminiscing over past adventures. Express enthusiasm for their current gaming grind. Once chatting feels comfortable again, suggest low-key meetups like grabbing an HP potion coffee or completing some quick daily quests together.
Successful interactions will steadily contribute to recovering lost Relationship XP, preparing you both for more intense partying up soon. So facilitate emotional healing through consistent presence and reliability before asking for deeper vulnerability.
Side Quest 4: Gradually Party Up for PvE Grinding
As your dismissive avoidant ex learns they can depend on you for support, slowly increase your questing together. Look for opportunities to organically incorporate one-on-one dungeon-delving into both your usual gaming routines. Leverage their natural preference for side-by-side activities over emotionally intense exchanges at first.
Once they associate you with pleasant breaks from daily grind, propose some classic relationship scenarios like a tavern dinner, harvesting resources outdoors, or attending a local village festival. But let intimacy rebuild behind-the-scenes through hundreds of tiny affectionate interactions rather than hot and heavy /pity sessions.
Establishing this harmonious flow holds the power to transform Surface Level party members into actual soul-bonded companions for the endgame.
Side Quest 5: Address the Raid-Wiping Mechanics
While a strong foundation of friendship and communication can carry you through most campaign side quests, completing the endgame as an unstoppable team requires confronting boss-level issues. These include destructive dynamics, unmet needs or lingering pain from your previous failed run together.
Now is the time for open and honest conversations around what went wrong, how it affected each of you, and what needs to change to prevent history from repeating next expansion pack.
Come prepared with empathy and self-awareness around your own weaknesses and negative patterns in relationships. Then gently explore what barriers might still be embedding fear or pain deep in your partner’s code. The key is facing challenges in a spirit of compromise, never condemnation.
With developer-level care and courage, you can overwrite old wounds with new emotional algorithms serving healthy intimacy rather than limiting it. And nothing cements bonds between party members like overcoming perceived impossibilities side-by-side. You got this!
The Wrap-Up Loot Report
While their avoidance mechanisms may seem like ruthless final bosses, winning back a dismissive avoidant‘s heart is possible with the right multiplayer strategies:
- Gain mutual commitment to future campaign cooperation
- Time your attempt when emotional barriers lift
- Establish positive communication and quality time
- Gradually increase emotional intimacy
- Work as allies to resolve past issues
Implementing these techniques levels up vital Relationship XP, preparing you both to unlock achievements like vulnerability, passion and lifelong partnership. It’s no grind – just good fun with the perfect player two!
The course ahead won’t be easy, but by thoughtfully completing each side quest, you candefeat instinctive avoidance, restore health to your bond, and reconcile differences. With compassion, courage and willingness to grow on both sides, your connection will emerge stronger than ever, ready to tackle new adventures together!
So set your sights on the epic loot – a thriving relationship with new levels of closeness and potential for joy. I know you’ve got the guts and dedication to see this campaign through. Game on!