As a passionate gamer, you know grinding through tough battles and mastering complex gameplay is rewarding. But few boss fights compare to the challenge of recovering after a relationship ends.
When your player 2 unexpectedly rage quits, it leaves you frustrated and determined to respawn at the last checkpoint.
This comprehensive guide will equip you with the best power-ups, special attacks, and recovery potions for getting your ex to regret abandoning your co-op campaign.
Why Making Her Regret Ditching Your Duo Works
Before jumping into gameplay strategies, it’s important to understand why triggering regret in an ex often unlocks future relationship continues.
It Resets the Power Levels
When she initiated a game over, your ex had all the power. She controlled the outcome. By sparking regret, you reset the power meters back to even. Maybe even tip them in your favor.
She starts questioning if she made the right move while you seem unfazed.
It Spawns Self-Doubt Status Effects
People typically bail when they feel confident in their choice. By making your ex second guess her decision, you inflict self-doubt.
These emotional DoTs (damage over time) result in her mind flooding with regret.
It Activates Attraction Buffs
Indifference, confidence, and happiness give you a Charisma boost. When she sees you leveling up without her, it renews dormant attraction.
She starts craving the adventures, achievements, and loot you acquire without her help.
It Provides Contrast
Comparing your bold, assertive post-breakup persona against the weak rookie she abandoned generates FOMO.
She’ll desperately want your new skins after ditching your noob default.
Step 1: Respawn at Your Last Save Point
When gamers suffer an untimely defeat, the first move is always respawning at their last save point.
Relationally, that means going "no contact" with your ex. No communication. No meetups for items or XP. Nothing.
This serves 3 critical functions:
You Respec Your Build
Maybe you obsessed over her, gave up time with squadmates, and always rushed to group with her first.
Respawning resets you to address these misallocated skill points.
You demonstrate independence ranking up solo for awhile. She sees these unfamiliar specs and playstyles causing curiosity.
I‘ve seen countless clients load old saves after breakups for fresh builds. One example is Nikolai, a 25 year old whose girlfriend Alyssa felt neglected due to his gaming. Going no contact gave him time to balance priorities better. When they eventually partied up later, Nikolai had a more attractive, balanced build.
She Misses Group Bonuses
When your constant emotional support, gift drops, and external validation suddenly disappear your ex feels weaker. She got used to those group bonuses.
Now she has to grind alone. Craft gear alone. She might struggle on levels you once tackled together. This is your chance to let her miss what you brought to the party.
I‘ve seen this one play out positively many times. Racquel broke things off with my client Tyler because she felt bored. During no contact, Racquel never anticipated missing Tyler’s vibrant energy. She saw she struggled solo and it birthed regret fast.
You Demonstrate Emotional Armor
Nothing telegraphs desperation and low self-esteem like chasing an ex who exited your party. Screaming “Please come back!” via text reeks of weakness.
Conversely, exiting gracefully and determined to raid alone beams confidence. It demonstrates self-sufficiency and boldness.
I coach my male clients to view no contact after breakups as equipping their emotional armor. To save face, fall back, and focus on capitalizing alone on loot she forfeited.
This happened perfectly for a client named Andre. His ex Sabrina felt too “crowded” in their relationship so she initiated a breakup. Andre equipped his emotional armor through no contact. He didn’t plea to maintain party affiliation or even ask why she wanted to raid solo. About one month of solo questing later, Sabrina was begging Andre’s forgiveness and asked to re-party permanently.
The first step for positioning an ex to regret abandoning your duo is cutting all communication to load your most recent emotional armor save file. Give yourself time to adjust skill points and demonstrate independence.
Which brings me to step two…
Step 2: Level Up Hard While She Grinds Casually
During your relationship, you naturally noticed flaws or weaknesses in each other’s gameplay. Areas where you thought your partner should improve.
Post breakup, people love magnifying their ex’s noob tendencies while minimizing their own.
But true players look inward at their own build issues first. Where can you improve?
Then they grind hard earning XP in those areas.
When an ex sees massive skill jumps in someone she willingly abandoned it triggers regret fast.
These are great ways for guys to level up after a relationship exit:
Improve Your Looks
- Adopt an intense gym quest grinding strength and agility XP
- Complete side missions for trendier armor drops (clothing updates)
- Visit the character customization menu for fresh hair and beard renders
Max Out Social Stats
- Party with old member amigos you haven’t seen in ages
- Join a weekly PvP league or co-op campaign
- Attend live community events to unlock charisma
Enhance Financial Perks
- Eliminate debt debuffs dragging you down
- Consult financial advisors to build wealth
- Craft a monthly budget and collecting unspent gold
Continue Main Story Progression
- Keep reading to add skill points
- Dabble in creative side quests like music or crafting
- Visit counselors to clear harmful debuffs like anxiety
I know some of that can feel overwhelming initially. But sticking to just a few key objectives leads to rapid boosts in confidence and emotional strength.
Not to mention jealousy and regret in the ex who ditched you mid-campaign.
One client named Rick got dumped by his girlfriend Natalie because he had grown complacent in life. No gym, boring job, no savings, etc. During no contact, Rick level grinded hard – losing 40 lbs, earning a promotion, and buying an investment property with his new savings pile. When Rick posted his success online, Natalie reached out admitting leaving him was “the worst mistake ever”. She wanted back into Rick‘s party after seeing how aggressively he was now able to grind.
The point is, don’t become stagnant post breakup. Take all that frustration and channel it into self-improvement side quests. Build an undeniable set of stats she’ll regret walking away from.
Step 3: Broadcast Your Epic Loot Finds
In your relationship, you likely showed your ex all your coolest gear and bonus loot. Shared intimate parts of yourself, your squadmates, and your questing.
Post-breakup, it’s time to crack rare loot chests solo. Which you then broadcast publicly for her to see.
When an abandoned player appears to find epic gear without his former duo member, it devastates the ex. She feels major FOMO and regret missing bonus rolls she assumed would be hers forever.
Subtly broadcasting your post-breakup loot is crucial. Here’s how to do it well:
Social Media Sharing
- Post engrossing party snapshots with new open world explorations
- Check into exotic locations and events showcasing your newfound freedom
- Share teasers of exciting gear, mounts, and bonuses you now claim solo
Mutual Server Whispers
- Allow your inner circle to organically share your leveled up builds
- Have amigos mention in conversations seeing you pair off with other skilled players
- Let her discover your independence through indirect channels first
Limit Direct Contact
- When asked directly about your ventures, remain selectively vague
- Refrain from brag posts sent to her for vanity – this often backfires
- Allow the indirect social proof to spark her curiosity vs overt gloating
The key is crafting enough FOMO that she reaches out to directly re-party. But not so much inaccurate bragging she smells desperation or exploitation.
I‘ve seen this exact sequence play out profitably many times. A client named Mike invested hardcore in self-growth after his girlfriend Penny departed unexpectedly. He shared his ventures subtly online over a few months. Eventually, Penny heard secondhand how much Mike was thriving and reached out. The mystique built via indirect broadcasting had rebuilt Penny‘s attraction and interest tenfold.
The takeaway is to broadcast just enough epic loot to trigger regret, but not enough she suspects manipulation.
Cutting communication, building yourself up solo, and subtly showcasing leveled status preps perfectly for an ex to regret abandoning your party mid-campaign.
Making Future Co-op Invites Count
If you‘ve followed the steps above, the chances your ex wants to re-party is high. You‘ve sparked nostalgia for your best fights together. Demonstrated enticing new builds and loot. And made her question walking away.
That first message reaching out after a long solo grind is critical. You must leverage all the curiosity, regret, and rekindled attraction to demonstrate extreme emotional resilience.
Here’s how to play that crucial interaction:
Make Her Initiate
Don’t beg her to rejoin your campaign. Let the social proof marinate until she voluntarily sends that opening message asking to reconnect. However long it takes.
Delay Response Initially
When she reaches out after months away, don’t appear overly eager responding instantly. Let her wonder if she missed her window. Build some healthy gamer ego by making her work a bit chasing your validation.
Meet Up Briefly
If you meet up in person, keep it short and casual. Get in, demonstrate your new power levels and talents, and get out fast. Leave her wanting more.
Run Hot and Cold
Mix showing genuine nostalgic interest with periods acting occupied chasing solo raids. Flipping between distraction and focus activates addictive uncertainty emotions.
Don’t Rush Re-Partying
Take intimacy slow. The first few meetups focus on light partying only. Build that sexual tension back up first before agreeing to permanent groups. Make her work to secure you as a primary team member this time.
I‘ve seen this win back sequence executed perfectly numerous times. A client named Damien got dumped unexpectedly after his girlfriend Kali felt he played video games too much. Damien went completely no contact, leveled up his career, traveled a bit, and subtly posted highlights online over 2 months. Eventually Kali messaged asking to “catch up” nervous she’d lost her chance. When they met up, Damien showcased his adventures and talent upgrades briefly while also appearing slightly distracted at moments. This rollercoaster pushed Kali into insistingthey get back together officially soon after.
The takeaway is powerful self-improvement sets the stage for her regret. But leveraging mysterious unavailability seals the deal to position her re-investing while you evaluate bait vs quality groups.
Soloing On Towards Victory
Breakups suck. Feeling kicked from a party you dedicated months or years questing with cuts deep if you‘re a gamer.
The knee jerk reaction is pleading – promising to adjust playstyle or specs to re-join their duo. But that often backfires, resulting in her guild blacklisting you.
That’s why I advise taking an unconventional approach.
- Go completely no contact first to showcase independence
- Level up solo acquiring impressve gear and skills
- Broadcast your ventures indirectly to create intrigue
- Let her reach out first when FOMO overpowers her doubts
- Brief meetups with mixed hot/cold vibe keeps her chasing
- Slowly evaluate if permanently re-grouping status makes sense
While I can’t guarantee she comes back begging, this strategy boosts emotional resilience regardless.
You build confidence, self-worth, and overall happiness even without her. Which should be every gamer‘s end goal when recovering from an untimely “Game Over".
I know breakups require insane mental fortitude and grinding effort to overcome at first. But take it from a relationship expert who has coached countless gamers just like you.
There is always another chance at co-op happiness when you level up solo first.
Game on,
Patrick James
Dating & Relationship Coach