Spicing Up More Than the Sex: Discovering Deeper Intimacy Through New Positions
As an intimacy coach with over 15 years experience counseling couples, I‘ve seen firsthand how leaning into sexual exploration together cultivates not just hotter sex but deeper emotional bonds.
While orgasms fade, the memory of vulnerability, adventure, laughter, and feeling truly seen remains. The couples I‘ve worked with don‘t just have better sex from trying new positions. They gain confidence in voicing desires; they trade inhibition for empowerment; they renew their passion for each other.
The journey into new erotic terrain isn‘t just about mechanics. It‘s about the thrill of sensation interwoven with emotional intimacy – an electrifying dance of expressing and discovering, guiding and being guided.
As you explore these intimate positions, approach sex as a pathway to intimacy rather than a mere physical release. Savour these moments of sensual adventure together. Let walls dissolve as you share in new joys, new peaks of pleasure.
Here are 5 positions offering toe-curling orgasms and soul-stirring intimacy:
The Doggy Style Position: Primal Passion Meets Intimate Care
Something about rear entry triggers our primal neural wiring. My clients often report doggy style helping them achieve orgasmic states more easily. And the research backs this up: per one study, over 50% of women said they most reliably climaxed through intercourse from behind.
The intensity of doggy style makes space for deeper surrender and vulnerability between partners. With his weight off her, she can focus solely on immersing into sensation and direction.
Some couples take this further by using a strap, belt or strategically placed furniture for support. Think of props as tools allowing both partners to melt more fully into pleasure – rather than grimacing from strain, they can relax into the peaks and valleys of sensation.
Approach this position with loving guidance, not domination. Caress her hips; kiss the nape of her neck; reach around to stroke sensitive spots. Make it intimate: "You feel incredible, my queen…" Let doggy style become a soul dance of primal passion and intimate care.
Orgasmic and Connected: Woman on Back, Legs Up
Some women report experiencing their first squirting orgasm in this position, which allows deeper penetration. Angling the hips just right enables intense front wall/G-spot stimulation.
While a Pillow can lift the hips for optimal alignment, I recommend a comfortable sling with ankle straps to provide essential support. This allows focusing all energy on immersing into the cascading waves of pleasure rather than tensing muscles to hold position.
My client Alicia* found herself involuntarily squirting for the first time using a sling in this position: "I felt so cherished – completely immersed in quivering ecstasy yet utterly safe at the same time."
Stay connected throughout by maintaining eye contact, synchronizing breath and peppering breasts with soft kisses. Thread fingers together and squeeze during each shuddering climax as a symbol of your emotional intimacy in that shared sacred space.
Cowgirl Position: Sculpting Deeper Bonds
When performed consciously, woman-on-top builds confidence plus allows uniquely tailored pleasure.
From this empowered stance controlling the rhythm, angle and depth of penetration, a woman gains new access to and appreciation for her own diverse erotic sensations.
Meanwhile his hands are free to caress thighs, play with breast nipples as they sway hypnotically above him, graze her clitoris and massage surrounding erogenous zones like the sacral spot just above her tailbone.
My client Celia attests cowgirl brought her to another dimension sexually:
"I discovered parts of me I didn‘t know could feel such exquisite pleasure. And seeing the awestruck desire in my husband‘s eyes as I undulated on him forged such a deeper bond between us."
Take it slow, communicating desires in this intimate dance. Let her discover which rhythms, rotations and angles alchemize into avalanches of ecstasy, while his whispered venerations empower her unfolding goddess energy.
The Missionary: Simplicity Inviting Intimacy
This elemental position remains popular because its straightforwardness creates space for partners to fully immerse into one another – emotionally and physically.
With the comfort and familiarity here, coupled with the angle providing easy G-spot stimulation and clitoral access, missionary facilitates greater arousal and pleasure which in turn enables higher levels of intimacy.
One study found over 75% of couples ranked missionary in their top 3 positions for achieving orgasm and deepening intimate bonds. The sustained eye gazing, kissing and ability to communicate desires in real time that missionary allows cultivates intense emotional connection – especially for new couples still navigating one another‘s erotic triggers.
To amplify pleasure, have her place a pillow under her hips for optimal pelvic tilt. Intertwine fingers overhead – synchronizing squeezed hands with mounting climaxes. Let the simplicity invite you to connect deeply heart-to-heart and soul-to-soul.
The "In a Shell" Position: Safety Inviting Vulnerability
Something profoundly intimate occurs in sustained embracing post-climax, still interlocked in a semi-fetal hug. Limbs entangled, partners remain physically and emotionally connected through whispered affirmations and soulful gazing.
Oxytocin and other feel-good neurotransmitters flooding the synapses after orgasm deepen feelings of love and bonding. By staying embraced in this vulnerable after-glow, trust builds along with the relationship.
Kiss slowly as if for the first time again in this tender repose. Let fingertips continue tracing lazy circles over his bare shoulderblades; let her nipples graze lightly along his chest communicating aftershocks of arousal. Discover new places that elicit sighs when kissed.
Awaken each morning this way: transitioning seamlessly from sleepy spoon to slow simmering sex. Let soft sunlight filtering through curtains illuminate two bodies moving in intuitive harmony – a dance choreographed through unspoken intimacy.
Approaching New Positions with Patience & Playfulness
As you forge deeper connections exploring new terrain – emotional and sexual – proceed with compassionate patience. Communicate desires, preferences and comfort levels every step. This is about the journey, not the destination.
Experiment playfully with rhythms, angles and oral intimacies without pressuring to perform. Burst out in laughter when things feel awkward; kiss through the fumbling until it flows more smoothly. Through each tender misstep, each soaring success, savor the thrill of unconditional acceptance.
Let intimacy coaching take many forms: sometimes I share techniques for better sex – yet more profoundly, I hope to model how to more fully immerse into each moment with loving presence and communication.
At our essence, my partners and I long to surrender into that nourishing oasis of being fully seen, held safe and pleasure revered…
What Next? Questions to Open Communication with Your Partner
As you continue on this intimate adventure together:
- What new discoveries are you most excited to explore further?
- How might we make the other feel thoroughly respected and cared for while venturing into new erotic terrain?
- What fears or inhibitions arise when you envision trying new positions/techniques? How could I lovingly support you through these?
Now more than ever, relationships require reigniting passion through novelty while cultivating deeper emotional and sexual intimacy. By prioritizing mutual pleasure, respect and loving communication in your sexplorations ahead, discover confidence in expressing erotic authenticity – and watch your shared fires roar beautifully because of it.
To new heights of pleasure and intimacy,
Alexandra Anastasia
Holistic Intimacy Coach