While some people have the opportunity to find their matches in post-secondary studies, others have to go through different routes to find lasting relationships. Finding the right online dating site or application can be hard. After looking at a few different websites and applications, I fell on EliteSingles. This is a dating website for people who already have careers set.
The idea behind this is that you don't need to waste your time on people who can't invest in a relationship, dates, etc., and as such, you can have more valuable conversations and more valuable relationships. If you've been on the edge about joining this dating platform, you've come to the right place. Below, you can read about our EliteSingles review.
Overall Impression on EliteSingles
My overall impression of this site is that it has good intentions. While some things can be applied more efficiently, the entire concept behind the platform was a good one. I don't like wasting my time and I like to be around people who have their life figured out, which is definitely the impression I got from EliteSingles.
Overall, this site is great for people who don't want to deal with someone who is still developing or who are still trying to find out who they are. I can't tell you the number of times I've gone on a date with someone only to find out that they still have a significant amount of healing to do. I don't have time to manage someone else's life and my own, which is why sites like EliteSingles are ideal for me.
While the price of the platform is quite extreme, it seems like the majority of the people on the site are easily able to afford it. OKCupid is one of the only sites that have prices near this one; however, OKCupid has reportedly created almost 5% of all marriages in the U.S. EliteSingles doesn't have these statistics to back it up, but I was impressed with the matches I was sent.
Who It's For (And Who it Isn't)
Every website has a target audience. EliteSingles has a very specific clientele, that being, marriage seekers, people aged 20+, and graduate students. This is because EliteSingles aims to provide matches with a match that is tailored specifically for them. Doing so is much easier when your demographic is smaller.
Advantages of EliteSingles
Before you decide to sign on with EliteSingles, you'll need to know about the advantages it has to offer.
Talking points
When you use EliteSingles, you don't need to worry about running out of things to talk about. If you notice that the conversation is veering toward you too much, there are suggestive bubbles that you can click on to give you ideas to ask the other person. The bubbles suggest questions surrounding communication, sexual experiences, and more. This will prevent conversations from running stale and will keep both you and your match engaged in what's going on.
Information provided
The advantage of having to fill out a long questionnaire is that you're provided a lot of information about potential matches. You and potential matches will have to disclose how much money you make, as well as your job title and your post-secondary degree. Luckily, EliteSingles also promises to verify whether the information provided is true. This way, you don't need to worry about being scammed.
The information you provide will also be ranked by what you deem to be important, which can be seen above.
Matches themselves
There is also something to be said about the number and the quality of matches on EliteSingles. You're provided with up to 7 matches per day, which are all given a compatibility score out of 100. You'll also have a list of the things you and the match have in common. The great thing about this system is that, while there are only 7 matches, your matches are tailored specifically to you. Websites like Match and Tinder, on the other hand, will provide you with dozens of potential matches to choose from. Match is pretty good about showing you people who may interest you based on those you've skipped, but it's nothing like EliteSingles' process.
You can use the “Have You Met” option on the platform, which will show you some people who differ from your filters. This is made to provide you with the opportunity to explore your horizons; after all, sometimes the most interesting relationships are made with people we don't expect.
One of my favorite features of EliteSingles is the interactive map you're shown. This has a number of little icons, which represent the location of the singles you've been matched with.
The atmosphere
A major benefit of using this website is that you get the impression that you're using a high-class site. Since all of your matches will also have a degree and because you'll be aware of how much the person makes in advance, you have the opportunity to share something in common with the person you're matching with. You can also expose yourself to new domains by asking about their jobs.
Easy to Use
The overall website is incredibly easy to use. You don't have to click on several subtabs or sublinks to get to the page you need.
It should also be noted that the main page is clean and sleek, as shown in the above image. You're asked about your gender and about you're looking for. From there, you press “Get Started” and you can begin your journey. There aren't any popups or chat windows to click on, which is a major bonus compared to other platforms.
The blog
The blog section of EliteSingles is in-depth and provides you with a number of topics that relate to being single or dating. You can, for example, find some blogs that provide you with tips for choosing the best venue, with tips for healthy communication, and more. I found this blog useful because it provided me with tips and tricks that I hadn't thought of beforehand.
The demographic
The users who sign up for EliteSingles tend to be older than some other platforms. This is great for those who are trying to find something more serious and for those who are slightly older than the usual dating platform demographic. While this may seem like the site is limiting itself, the platform aims to match “elite” singles together. This requires them to have post-secondary studies and to have stable employment, which needs to be verified by the site. It makes sense, then that the overall demographic is older.
I really appreciate the idea of EliteSingles, but I also find it a bit shallow to be matched with someone depending on what they do for a living and how much money they make. While it does allow for quality relationships, I have something against being matched with people in this way.
The security
Because of how much personal information you provide on EliteSingles, it can be nervewracking to imagine how much of this information can be leaked or shared. The good news is that EliteSingles has made a significant amount of effort in providing users with complete security. The website claims to check all accounts and information manually, so any of your financial information, as well as that of your potential matches, will have to be confirmed before you can get started. Not only this, but the site has a 24-hour IT team that will take care of any of your needs as they arise.
Disadvantages of EliteSingles
Now you know all about the advantages of using EliteSingles, it'll be useful for you to know about the disadvantages.
It takes a long time to set up
In comparison to other dating websites, EliteSingles does take a long time. With dating sites like Match and Tinder, you can set up your account with only a few minutes. If you want to give thoughtful answers to the questions, you'll need to reserve at least 30 minutes for this. The questionnaire you're given can also be awkward at times. There were moments when I asked myself why I was being asked certain questions.
The questionnaire
The questionnaire asks questions that are extremely hard to answer or to figure out. You're asked to rate how “logical” you are, for example, which isn't exactly objective. There are some things that you can't possibly be honest about because you don't want to rate yourself badly on things like “communication” or you'll appear to be problematic. My main problem with this is that the platform is setting us up for dishonesty or for unrealistic expectations. With 200 questions to answer, it can be overwhelming to make your way through everything.
Distance
A major disadvantage of using this website is that the shortest distance you can use as an option is 50 miles. If you're looking for someone who is closer than 50 miles away, you might find yourself sifting through a number of prospects before finding someone who is at a reasonable distance.
Pricing
The price of this platform is its major downfall. I had a hard time justifying spending so much money on a dating platform membership, You can use the free version of EliteSingles, but it doesn't allow you to actually message anyone or see photos. Here's a list of the prices you can choose:
- 3 months: $69.95 per month
- 6 months: $53.95 per month
- 12 months: $39.95 per month
This probably would have been more reasonable if EliteSingles had more options for memberships. I would, for example, be willing to pay more money for a membership that lasts one month instead of having to pay more than $200 for 3 months.
The good thing about using these high prices is that EliteSingles gets to filter people who aren't up to the website's standards. Since EliteSingles requires people to live a more luxurious lifestyle, the prices of the platform are the first step in weeding out people who aren't the target demographic. You can be pretty sure that most of the people on this platform are looking for something serious.
The Matches
I mentioned this as one of the site's advantages, but it is also a disadvantage. I noticed that some of my matches didn't match the parameters I had set. Some people were more than 50 miles away, which was the distance I had set.
The Date
Going on a date from EliteSingles was better than the majority of the dates I've gone on. My match was mature and had questions that were extremely targeted. I could tell he took the time to go through the information on my profile.
We went to a local French restaurant, where he bought us appetizers, a main dish each, wine, dessert, and coffee. I'm not saying that this is a requirement for a date to be good, but it was nice to have someone invest money on a date.
EliteSingles Alternatives
There are a lot of dating websites out there, which is why it can be hard to know where to start or which one to choose. Below, you can read all about how EliteSingles compares to other dating platforms.
Tinder
Tinder is known across the world for being the perfect app for hookups and for younger populations. It isn't rare to see captions from people who reveal that they're underaged or from people who are traveling and looking “for a good time”. EliteSingles prevents this hassle by being upfront about what they want, which is a community of like-minded people.
OKCupid
OKCupid is another dating platform that has maintained popularity through the years. This website claims to be responsible for almost 5% of all marriages in the United States, which could be why its prices are so high. That said, EliteSingles does have higher prices without the statistics to support them.
Match
Match is a dating app that is most like EliteSingles. Match is, however, slightly less expensive and provides users with more matches. You'll also have to answer some questions, albeit fewer than EliteSingles.
More: Our Ultimate Match Review
Final Thoughts
I've always found dating websites to be intimidating. After finding myself recently single, I started exploring different websites. With some, I've found that the majority of single people online are only looking to hook up. Not only this, but a lot of dating websites are tailored to a younger generation of people. This can be good or bad depending on who you are and what you're looking for.
Still, I appreciate the effort that the creators of EliteSingles has put into developing a platform for people who both have their lives together and who are looking for something serious. In this sense, I got the feeling that people on the website were trying to find a partner rather than a relationship. The majority of the people I spoke to were genuinely interested in what I had to say and, overall, my time on EliteSingles was a success.
