Attracting a High Value Masculine Man: Why Understanding Polarity Holds the Key
As a dating coach specializing in helping successful women find lasting love, I‘ve seen countless female clients struggle by dismissing the power of feminine energy. Downplaying their essence due to mistaken beliefs around weakness or old gender roles, they suppress traits that actually inspire masculine pursuit.
Brilliant lawyer Janice was one such client. Though excelling in her career, her love life was lackluster. "I don‘t understand why men lose interest after a few dates," she lamented. "I make time for them, suggest fun activities, and share stories to keep conversations flowing."
Despite Janice’s intellectual strength and social confidence, her constant leading was actually repelling relationship-minded men. By dominating interactions, interrupting her date’s stories, and avoiding vulnerability, Janice stopped masculine suitors from taking the lead required to kindle romantic interest.
Like many feminine women today, Janice needed to better understand masculine/feminine polarity. By embracing feminine traits that inspire masculine pursuit, she could finally attract the healthy, lasting relationship she desired.
The Masculine/Feminine Dance: Why Opposites Attract
Research on relationship satisfaction suggests balanced masculine/feminine polarity underpins fulfillment for both genders. A University of Hawaii study on 32 heterosexual couples in committed relationships found that:
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Couples with visible masculine/feminine polarity reported far higher satisfaction than those lacking defined gendered essence, regardless of who fell into masculine/feminine roles.
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Partners subscribing to traditional masculine/feminine behaviors reported slightly higher scores than non-traditional couples. However, polarity itself mattered more than specific roles.
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Domains like desire, passion, balance of power and growth showed much higher ratings in polarized relationships. Couples lacking polarization reported greater conflict and stagnation.
So what explains thisdynamic? In essence:
Masculine energy drives action, purpose, mission, momentum and hunt. It is Yang – focused directionally on breaking new ground.
Feminine energy nurtures relationships, unity, and inclusive circles of support. It is Yin – diffuse awareness embracing overall interconnectedness.
With balanced polarity, the masculine focus paired with the feminine awareness of relationships creates a powerful combo. Just as a magnet has a positive and a negative side, the attraction created by masculine and feminine complements drives passion and desire.
Without polarity, even relationships with all other markers for success may feel lackluster.
The Risks of Suppressed Feminine Energy
Despite these clear benefits, many women today minimize feminine traits which seems at odds with strength in the working world. However, supressing feminine essence carries risks. My female clients who downplay their feminine nature often struggle to find lasting love, even with many amazing qualities seeking a masculine match.
Without polarity, even relationship-minded men will lose interest and fail to pursue. Other consequences include:
- Attracting men who never fully commit
- Feeling drained, undervalued, taken for granted
- Lacking ability to trust and emotionally connect
- Confusing sexual attraction with relationship potential
Janice’s story shows why restoring feminine polarity matters. The good news? By understanding feminine essence and allowing it to shine, women can powerfully attract relationship-ready men.
Demystifying Feminine Essence
So what defines feminine energy? And how can women reclaim this crucial aspect of self?
Firstly, feminine essence encompasses everything that makes you a woman. Though all humans contain both masculine and feminine traits, leading with feminine qualities as a woman creates that magnetic charge.
On the physical level, feminine energy appreciates sensuality, sacred sexuality, and channeling beauty, vitality and pleasurable embodiment. Carve out time to move in ways that help you feel gracefully aligned in your own skin. Explore clothing styles, lingerie, makeup palettes or other adornments allowing you to preside as queen of your realm through the feminine lens.
However, even more important is nurturing your interior feminine landscape. This means digging deep to tap into intuition, embrace emotional and social intelligence enough to sense others’ unspoken needs, practice radical receptivity to all the insight your body offers up. Spend time immersed in nature and her cycles. Channel your connection to the divine feminine, goddess energy, or archetypes like Mother Earth through rituals, meditation or journaling.
The more you amplify traits like vulnerability, compassion, patience, collaboration, unconditional love and wise nurturing, the brighter your feminine essence will shine. This energy is irresistible to men with well-developed masculine polarity.
Welcoming Pursuit: Feminine Polarity in Practice
Of course, understanding feminine energy is only half the battle when seeking love. You must also put this into practice when dating.
The initial steps? Firstly, focus on reciprocating masculine men’s overtures without taking over interactions. Give interested men green lights to approach through warm body language, sustained eye contact and smiles. Accept date invites graciously rather than making all the plans yourself. Say yes more often to social invites and adventures to share the joy of exploration and living.
This polarity early on sets the stage for attraction and desire by enabling him to pursue you actively without question. When both parties feel simultaneously empowered and required in their gendered essence, confidence builds on both sides.
For Janice, this meant catching herself before dominating a conversation. Rather than rapid-firing questions at her date or interjecting with her own stories, she learned to pause, listen fully, and give interested men room to express themselves while appreciating the alluring mystery of the feminine.
It wasn’t about playing games or being inauthentic. Instead, Janice realized that demurring a bit allowed her dates to reveal their true intentions through effort made. She focused on discerning which suitors would rise to the occasion rather than desperately convincing anyone to spend time with her.
Standards Matter Too
Does embracing feminine energy mean letting go of standards? Definitely not! In fact, feminine wisdom helps intuitively filter which men demonstrate long-term relationship potential from those simply wasting your time.
The feminine art of waiting lets masculine men reveal themselves through their efforts while your energy stays centered and whole. You recognize that a man serious about winning your heart will find ways large and small to make it happen.
So embrace your power to politely decline anyone not willing to consistently step up and pursue you. Don’t justify breadcrumbs of attention. Walk away from stilted conversations leaving you carrying all the emotional weight. Have faith in timing and pay attention to red flags without desperately clinging to unproven potential.
This filters for men truly willing to rise to the occasion in dating you while appreciating your worth. When treated exceptionally by a masculine suitor willing to invest emotional, physical and mental energy in the thrill of the chase, reward him accordingly.
Common Pitfalls That Deter Healthy Relating
Even quintessentially feminine women can inadvertently sabotage healthy relating. Some common mistakes include:
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Hiding your true self or unique interests. Exquisitely feminine women don‘t shrink themselves to appease anyone. Cultivating genuine vulnerability allows suitable mates to know and delight in the real you.
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Letting work obligations fully distract you from relationships. Nurturing dating requires making space for real life connections amid responsibilities. Multitasking often leaves both suffering.
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Tolerating jealous, controlling or possessive behaviors that shut down your self-expression. This imbalance will only worsen with time, starving the relationship. Address issues early before patterns cement.
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Shouldering all emotional labor to tiptoe around conflict. Make sure a masculine partner also steps up to resolve issues together. Sweeping grievances under the rug breeds resentment on both sides.
Stay attuned to red flags early on thanks feminine intuition. Never feel pressure to minimize your needs or walk on eggshells. This simply filters for men capable of showing up fully in relationships.
By staying centered in your feminine essence, you empower masculine men to step into their purposeful yet complementary essence too. With practice, this polarity dynamic helps call in healthy love.
In Summary
I‘ve seen countless female clients transform their love lives simply by balancing masculine/feminine polarity. Those who embrace receptive feminine energy notice more options and opportunities presenting for dating high quality men.
Remember, suppressing feminine traits only frustrates romantic success. By reclaiming this essence and setting standards, women can powerfully attract masculine prospects willing to consciously commit.
Make time for self-care kindling your physical radiance and pleasure while also nurturing emotional intelligence. Lean into receptive energy during early dating. Avoid common mistakes sabotaging healthy relating. Stay true to needs and walk away from anyone unwilling to rise to meet them.
Trust that embracing your feminine magnifies beauty and inspiration while filtering for lasting love. You deserve a masculine partner devoted to nurturing the depths of your feminine soul. By understanding essence, you hold the key to manifesting this incredible relationship.
I believe in you. Now believe in your own worth – and brace for love!
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