As intense gamers, we tend to view life like RPG romantic quests – on an epic mission to find "the one" who makes an ideal adventuring partner. But what happens when you meet an incredible man who seems to tick all the boxes…yet the timing is completely off?
This frustrating scenario is like grabbing a coveted legendary item only to discover you lack the required level to equip it. So close, yet completely inaccessible!
However, just as setbacks in games serve a purpose to strengthen skills, meeting Mr. Right at the wrong time is often part of a deeper growth journey. Recognizing why provides gamer-style clarity for leveling up and getting unstuck.
1. It Activates "Twin Flame" Recognition
In spirituality, the concept of "twin flames" refers to predestined partners that mirror your abilities and share an intensely transcendent connection that awakens your greater purpose for being together. It‘s considered one of the highest forms of love.
This mirrors many gamer love narratives like Jaina and Arthas in Warcraft lore – incredibly gifted individuals whose relationship gets truncated too soon by external factors and poor decisions rather than incompatibility.
And just like games love embedding twist narratives about timing or fate thwarting epic love, meeting a twin flame tie at the wrong time IRL activates that sense of predestined recognition.
Psychologist Dr. Morgan Lee notes this intensity taps into spiritual senses and changes you profoundly through sheer envisioning of possibilities:
"The relationship doesn‘t manifest in the way you fantasize that it will, but the fantasy brings your soul to life."
The key is channeling that activation energy for growth rather than losing progress through obsession over what could have been. Limit rumination time like any high-dopamine activity.
2. It Highlights Relationship Quest Readiness Gaps
Gamers hate few things more than discovering they lack needed GP, armor rating or reputation level to access new content. Likewise with relationships, feeling unable to fully explore connection with the right person due to inadequacy stings.
However if meeting Mr. Right now clashes with responsibilities like school, family issues, travel plans or other goals prioritized "in your quest log", it illuminates areas needing attention so you level up relationship readiness.
You can even quantify this like RPG upgrade needs e.g.:
- Need at least 8 more kindness to perform emotional support spells
- Current self-awareness only Level 12, insufficient for lasting relationships
- Questing alone raises shadow resist and mental focus
This metrics-based gap analysis prepares you for relationship endgame content without neglecting other achievement pathways important to you.
3. It Provides a Carrot for Self-Improvement Grinding
Let‘s be honest – intentional personal growth work can be tough grinding with little immediate payoff. Especially around emotional skills versus more tangible rewards like physique gains from working out.
However, briefly meeting an outstanding match provides that missing motivation element – a memorable "legendary gear carrot" reinforcing why you quest so hard in the first place and the glorious moments working toward.
Without meaningful carrots to motivate the grind, we risk descent into being a forever alone "basement dweller". Meeting Mr. Right Now establishes gripping, tangible proof of relationships worth striving for.
4. It Builds Tenacity for Weathering External Challenges
The reality is few relationships ever align perfectly externally for long without impediments like distance, family crises, job changes or other random variables.
So if an incredible match manifests under less than ideal external variables, view it as an obstacle gauntlet deliberately placed as a test of convictions and resilience.
Passing prepares you for the inevitable choppy waters of blending lives rather than fantasies of perpetually smooth sailing. Weather raging storms by focusing on your North Star rather than waves.
5. It Sets "The One Who Got Away" Anchor Point
Gamers intrinsically understand how pivotal early progress benchmarks shape journey expectations and make going backwards harder. Earning epic gear early warps gear standards thereafter.
Likewise, intensely connecting then parting ways with an outstanding match establishes elevated anchor points making settling for less vastly more difficult.
This can motivate investing in solo growth to avoid regressing to mediocre relationships. Let them be the inspiring ghost of relationship future spurring you ever forward rather than backwards!
When an incredible relationship flashes then fades due to imperfect timing, the discomfort can derail us from destined paths if mishandled.
Here are 5 gamified tactics for enduring meeting the right partner at the wrong time:
1. Save them as historical marker for your relationship quest log
Reframe them not as "the one who got away" but rather "the one who made me realize what was possible" – establishing a new anchor standard to work towards in dating.
2. Resist obsession; limit rumination to complete essential quests first
Ruminating endlessly activates addictive craving loops that consume without satisfying. Set firm boundaries on reflection time to avoid descending into a motivation vampire pit.
3. Level up kindness, communication and emotional skills massively
quantified self-improvement goals e.g. add 20 more empathy points, gain 2 tiers of commitment courage, unlock next stage of self-awareness.
4. Visualize succeeding together on a future shared quest
Occasionally revisiting this mental image sustains certainty of aligned paths while staying focused improving solo first.
5. When the students are ready, the teacher appears
Have faith that when you become properly relationship-ready, divine timing shall perfectly reintersect your paths if truly destined. Play on powerfully in the meantime!